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Posted on 12/30/2011 by Sara-Spyder

We want to introduce you to your new state of being:
In Conscious Freedom:

You know that you’ll be okay no matter what.
You don’t criticize yourself.
You’ve lost interest in judging others.
You believe feeling good is your natural state.
You expect the best outcome all the time.
You trust yourself and your choices.
You have a strong impulse to be curious.
You want the best for others.

How does it feel to be described this way? What would your life be like?
You may be saying to yourself right now: ”Yes—that’s what I want, but it’s too good to be true. It’s really hard to see myself that way.”

We know it’s difficult to imagine that life can be that radically different. It seems too good to be true because you’ve never been taught how to live your life this way. You were taught how to live the life you are living right now– whether you realize that or not.
Whatever you feel right now, or whatever results you’re experiencing in your life, we’re suggesting if it doesn’t feel good, satisfying, connected, and expansive, something is blocking those possibilities.

And we know what it is.

We take you from the negative thoughts you’re recycling right now, the self-doubt and self-criticism you’re feeling to a life that’s transformed by the awareness of what’s driving your experience. Practicing this new perspective results in feeling good about yourself and eliminates the negative debris that’s blocking your freedom, choices and satisfaction.

Conscious freedom is an acute awareness of how you got to be who you are now, and how you get to be who you want to be. In conscious freedom you know that beliefs are the foundation of your life experience and that you can choose what you want to believe. This allows you to create the life you want.

We’re offering you the tools to access conscious freedom for yourself. [Contact Us]

“It takes a lot of courage to look into the cosmic mirror. We are so big that it is overwhelming to take in, to imagine our true greatness, true beauty, and true enlightened being-ness. The great universe in which we live provides constant feedback about our evolutionary process if we choose to look, listen and stop making excuses for postponing our awakening.” ~ Rev. Michael Beckwith

Believe in Yourself

Posted on 01/05/2012 by Sara

Believe in Yourself. What does that feel like? No matter how many awards, gold stars, compliments or acknowledgments you get, nothing makes you feel better than when you are proud of yourself. And you don’t have to do anything to be proud. Just the fact that you have gotten this far in your life is enough. That’s a very good place to start in fact. ” I’ve survived my life so far! Yay!” How about it?! Believe in yourself--you’re the one that counts.

Self Acceptance

Posted on 01/02/2012 by Sara

How much you value yourself determines who you are, what you do, and what you get out of life. What would your life be like if you accepted yourself completely? What does that mean? Does it mean that you would never improve? Does it mean that you’re “done”? Does it mean that you’d be “settling”?

What Self Acceptance means on a daily basis, is accepting who you are—the unique and special person that you are, with all the warts and scars and frizzy hair and extra pounds and saying “ This is me and I’m OK. In fact I’m not only OK, I’m pretty wonderful.” Now, if you are able to do that—and it may take some practice at first, you’ll find that you begin to feel a little happier. You’ll notice that you enjoy your life a little bit more every day.

You are just changing the old habit of putting yourself down. And now practicing the new habit of saying “I’m OK today.” “Even if I make mistakes, I’m OK.” “Even if I weigh more or less than I prefer, I’m OK.” “I’m OK no matter what happens. “ That’s what it takes to create Self-Acceptance. Just practicing that new habit every day.

Self Acceptance can only come from you. You are the only one who can do this for yourself which means you have a lot of power. You have the power to reject yourself or to accept yourself. Which do you choose? Self Acceptance means that you are OK with who you are right now. Self Acceptance gives you something special that you need in order to thrive in this world. It empowers you to make changes and accept love from other people. It’s a very important part of being alive and enjoying life.

Life is Supposed to Feel Good

Posted on 12/10/2011 by Sara

If we come from the belief that life is supposed to feel good, we can check in with ourselves regularly to adjust the things we can, let go of the things we can’t change and keep an eye on that “prize”.
Much like we do with a Life Purpose Statement, which we reference on a regular basis, we say: Are my actions and goals in alignment with Feeling Good? Is what I’m choosing right now in the direction of feeling good? Make this a conscious choice and you’ll thank yourself for it.

Do Something Different

Posted on 10/21/2011 by Spyder

At the exact moment of realizing that we’re under the influence of a self-sabotaging belief, we have to do something different. That action is what creates transformation.

It became very clear, during a session with a client this week, that in order for her to break a habitual pattern of not valuing herself, she had to take action and do something different. She was feeling overwhelmed and frustrated as a mother. She had equated the need to show up to all of her child’s activities, no matter what, with being a good mom. During our session she discovered that her motivation for going to her child’s activities when she wasn’t feeling well or needed a break came from a belief that “I’m not (a) good enough (mom).”

She realized she could undermine this belief by reinforcing the thought that by taking care of herself, she’s being a good mom. She also realized that the next time she feels conflicted about going to her child’s soccer game when she’s not up to it, she has to make a different choice. By doing something different, in this case caring for herself instead of going to the game, she begins to engage with the new belief that she’s “good enough”, and she will be an even better mom for it.

Accountability

Posted on 10/28/2010 by Sara

I recently (yesterday!) achieved a goal that was 100 days long. I set an intention publicly that I would meditate every morning for 100 days with Conscious Creation–meaning that in meditation, I envisioned the person I was leaving behind and then the person I was becoming. It is a process that Dr Joe Dispenza is teaching that has been very intriguing to me. I also wrote about my practice every day in a blog called My Dispenza Days There is a sense of pride and accomplishment when I succeed in an extended goal like this. It doesn’t have anything to do with ego–it has to do with the empowerment that consciousness gives. Many days, my body would have preferred to sleep in, or get started on the day without the practice, but because I had promised myself and others and created accountability, I followed through. I encourage you to use this tool–we all need some support to make the changes that will benefit us and accountability is helpful not only to us, but to our friends and mentors who become part of the process.

Get Inspired

Posted on 09/14/2010 by Sara

What’s your best motivator? An inspiring story? The advice of a trusted friend? I find that at the end of the day, when I’ve deliberately chosen to be inspired by something or someone, my experience of life feels so much more satisfying. And isn’t that what it’s all about? Aren’t we re-examining that old meme that says we must suffer and have pain to live and learn? I certainly hope so.

Who’s Driving the Bus Today?

Posted on 09/08/2010 by Sara

There is a tendency–when things are going well, to relax my standards and allow my Unconscious to take over and run the show for awhile. Rather than asking “Why is that?” I know to be aware of it. This can happen to me in many guises: My body saying: “Why not take a break from exercising?–you’re doing fine now.” Or my mind suggesting: “No one would fault you if you skipped meditating today.” In the world of ME, I chose to manage myself with a tender but firm hand. A bit of tough love occasionally and a lot of forgiveness. In each moment, I get to reboot and decide that this is the next moment of my life–and nothing from the past (even yesterday), determines my potential or possibility–only this sweet moment. This very precious new moment. I am learning to be a good Manager, a good Leader, a good CEO of Sara’s Life and Consciousness.

What Moves You?

Posted on 08/28/2010 by Sara

A beautiful moonrise? A colorful sunset? A smiling baby? An inspiring story? Look for things that move you. It will make you feel more alive and connected to the magic of life. Go for it.

When’s a Good Time to Feel Better?

Posted on 08/25/2010 by Sara

It’s never too late or too soon to feel better about yourself. The best place to start is by choosing happiness. When I choose happiness over my old way of looking at things, I seek it out, I get creative in how I perceive people and the things that happen around me. This is not complicated but it’s not easy in the beginning. It requires that you pay attention to your thoughts and what you give attention to. Many of your thoughts are “throw away” thoughts. Press that “delete button” in your mind when a thought comes up that doesn’t serve you any more! You can do it. One thought at a time is how it starts. And I promise you that it will get easier as you practice it.

What’s Your Story?

Posted on 08/23/2010 by Sara

We all have a story that we lead with when meeting new people–and probably repeat with friends on a regular basis. This is our answer and explanation when we’re asked: What are you up to?, What’s your work? How are you doing? We’ve got a script that we fit into those slots that describes our current reality–as we see it. If we are repeating the same story day in and day out, our life will not change. I challenge you to change your story–to give up the “but it’s true!” mentality and say things like: “I’m currently pursuing whatever is possible” Or “I’m feeling much better than I have in the past” Or “I know good things are just around the corner for me.” Let your new story help you move forward in your life!

What’s That Feeling?

Posted on 08/18/2010 by Sara

$flame-fractal3$ How much we value ourselves is a feeling inside of us that can be hard to pin down. On the one extreme it’s the feeling that:

Nothing matters, there’s no point in making an effort, that life is not playing out in our favor, essentially, that we are a victim of circumstances and we’re not worth the effort at any kind of improvement.

The other end of the spectrum is the feeling that:

Everything is possible for me, I am in the right place at the right time, people want to be connected to me, things work out well for me, I am an important contributor to my relationships, my work, my life. I have value and significance.

We tend to identify ourselves at different places on this spectrum depending on what’s happening in our lives but there is a default position we all hold, and it affects all areas of our lives—AND that default position can be raised with great benefit to us. Then we aren’t counting on circumstances lining up well to feel good about ourselves. So ask yourself: What would it be like to feel good about myself all the time—no matter what I’m doing or not doing?

One dissenting thought might be: If I felt like that, would I still want to improve myself or my behavior? Isn’t self-criticism a driver for higher standards?

No, it’s not. That’s a myth—Occasionally, we make a renewed effort when we judge ourselves as having messed up, but in the long run, self–criticism drains our energy and makes us feel defeated if it goes on too long or becomes repetitive (which it usually does in most people).

I’d like to encourage people to replace Self-Criticism with Self-Assessment. Self-Assessment (or self awareness) can be an objective tool we use to check in and see where we want to grow, make changes and improve our skills. It’s a neutral territory, rather than a reactive one which is what self-criticism is.

No One Else Can Do It For You

Posted on 08/13/2010 by Sara

You are the only one who can exact change in your life. It’s the honest truth. I found myself in my earlier years, wanting a magic pill, or someone to come and rescue me from my misery and internal suffering. Guess what! Nobody’s coming to rescue you! So you might as well take the bull by the horns and learn emotional maturity or whatever is on your plate at the moment. Best wishes for a gentle journey!!

Self Worth and Self-Esteem

Posted on 08/13/2010 by Sara

I can’t say enough about how fundamental this issue is. How you feel about yourself affects every area of your life and is fundamentally important to your ability to access happiness.
There are 6 main areas to address when building self-esteem and building self worth. They are

Living Consciously
Self Acceptance
Responsibility
Purpose
Integrity
Self Acceptance

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Why get a Coach?

Posted on 10/04/2009 by Sara

I’ve had a number of different coaches in my life and have had a variety of experiences with them–ALL GOOD! I want to share what’s possible when you select a great coach for yourself. This is the shopping list:
A great coach challenges, nudges, understands, encourages, pays attention, supports, believes in you, wants you to stretch, holds your hand, invites you out of your comfort zone, is creative, has tools to share, keeps track of your successes, reminds you how great you are, calls you on your stuff, knows your value, believes that everything is possible for you, inspires you and empowers you.
The best coaches help you navigate the intricacies of your mind and perspectives and help you see so many more choices than you can see right now. They hold you accountable to your own goals and visions. They see you already there. That’s a great coach.

Where the Rubber Meets the Road

Posted on 08/04/2009 by Sara

What does it take for you to follow through on an intention? How many times have you “practiced failure” by setting an intention and for whatever reasons, let it go after awhile? I know, you can justify it in so many ways….. But let’s get real! What is truly happening here? I’m addressing the level of commitment I have to raising the standards of my own life. How does that work for you?

The Truth about Life–and You

Posted on 04/30/2009 by Sara

Who are you really?
You are a magnificent being. You are Powerful, Worthy and Abundant. When you feel that way about yourself you know that you are connected to your source. It is what defines Conscious Freedom.
Everything is open to you. The possibilities are endless for you and everyone around you. If you don’t already feel this way, all you need to do is uncover and dissolve what’s in the way of perceiving yourself as such. Every minute holds the opportunity to take that step.

Now here’s the truth:
You are Powerful:
You have the power to stop a thought on a dime and move to another thought and you have done this many times: Distractions are the simplest example of this.
You have the power to change your opinion about any person, place or thing –and you have done this many times in your life: You don’t have all the same
opinions that you had when you were 10 or 16 or even 30! These developed over time and they changed with new information!
The range of human power is so great that we can pick up a car off an infant, cut off our own arm that’s caught between rocks in order to save our life and change our crummy mood to a better one when we hear a baby laugh. Powerful
You are Worthy:
You just are. You came that way. If you were born, you are automatically worthy. Fact.
You are Abundant. We live in a Universe of Abundance. The Law of Attraction tells us, that there’s plenty for all. When we know this about ourselves we begin to see it all around us. You have access to Abundance in all things. All you need to do is to feel worthy to allow it all in. That’s the truth.

The Bottom-Line

Posted on 04/25/2009 by Sara

In the business world, the bottom-line is productivity and profit. That’s fine and dandy if you know that there’s a line for all of us below that bottom-line. We call it Love. There’s nothing more important to human beings than Love. We crave it, seek it, and do any number of things for it. And whether we know it or not, our happiness and satisfaction in life depends on the amount that we have both for ourselves and for other people–and of course! our sweet animal friends.

Increasing the love in our lives starts with us. How can you love and appreciate yourself more today?

Coaching to Freedom

Posted on 04/20/2009 by Sara-Spyder

We help people feel better about themselves. We focus on that because everything you think about your life and the world starts with how you feel about yourself.

Our process takes you from the habit of beating yourself up, endless self doubt and the negative thoughts you’re recycling right now to a life that feels good, filled with freedom, choice, creativity and the awareness of what’s driving you so that you can have a great life.

All distress in your life can be addressed with Conscious freedom coaching. When you make the decision that you want to feel better—and it’s really as simple as that—the door is opened for you to begin the process of uncovering what’s in the way of your happiness and satisfaction.

It’s a relief to have a knowledgeable and articulate guide to help clean up the negative debris that you’ve been unconsciously dragging around with yourself every day.

This partnership—and we feel strongly that we are forming a partnership with you– offers immediate relief. Our sessions revolve around what’s going on with you in your daily life. We teach you to apply a new perspective and understand what’s driving your thoughts, feelings and perceptions. We address family issues, relationships, intimacy, self-sabotage, self worth, negative patterns, depression, scarcity mentality, loss, grieving, powerlessness, body image and more.

We clarify the subconscious motivations for the painful situations and emotions you are experiencing. [Root Shadows]

Our coaching goal is to provide you with the tools and practices to use in your daily life; moment to moment, step by step, clearing what’s in the way of feeling a deep sense of satisfaction and freedom in your life.

We know that you can be rid of the hidden barriers that are in the way of your happiness. You deserve the freedom to experience the satisfying life that’s waiting for you.

Take a step toward freedom and Contact Us

Addressing Resistance

Posted on 04/18/2009 by Spyder

Here’s an excerpt from a follow up to a recent coaching session. We were addressing the resistance that comes up around doing this work, the disbelief, and defenses. Because of the depth of the work and how our minds function, it is rare for a client not to bump up against some resistance:

“It’s really hard to swallow the fact that something’s going on inside of you that has incredible power over your behavior and you still can’t see it. I know you can’t see it, and understand that’s why it’s so difficult to believe it’s there. All we know and can act from, are our learned coping mechanisms, and when the survival of those mechanisms is threatened, it’s actually important to resist. It’s our instinct to deflect and defend. Root shadows are like a Klingon ship inside of you, so when you consciously begin to dismantle that ship, it puts up its deflection shields.

Here’s another way of looking at disbelief in your resistance. If you were born into slavery, and lived in slavery for 50 years, and then one day someone came up to you and said, “hey guess what? You’re not a slave anymore, you’re free! Go..Be…Do, whatever you want!” Chances are that you’d be disoriented and wouldn’t know how to think about that or what to do. Everything in your life looks the same as it did, your house, your clothes, your food, but suddenly you’re free. And just because someone told you, why should you believe her? You have to learn how to think like a free person, what choices are available to a free person, live as a free person, try it on and experience it. Then you will start feeling like a free person, and from that experience, know and believe you are free.

I understand that I may be the first person that has ever said to you that feeling worthless or powerless is not who you really are, and that you can have a different life experience. But if I’m the only one who has ever told you that, why should you believe me?

I think that one of the fears we can feel as human beings when looking deeply at our own pain and suffering is that if we really expose it, really see it, then we might get stuck there and get consumed by the feelings of powerlessness or deprivation. Isn’t that what we’ve been trying to hide from and skirt around most of our lives? And now you’re being pointed straight at it and Yipes!!! Now there’s nowhere to run.

I know that the most powerful action I’ve ever taken was to face my belief about myself that I was worthless and undeserving. I was able to see this because time and time again my coach pointed out how this belief was playing itself out in my life; my feelings, thoughts and perceptions being symptoms of the hidden beliefs. But along with this new awareness she also showed me that it wasn’t the truth about me, and never was. My fear and resistance was (then) replaced by curiosity and the realization that by seeing what my life was being driven by, I could have choice over it and be empowered to change it if I wanted to.

Here’s another analogy for the reason to uncover your Root Shadows: If your car is making a funny noise or isn’t working properly, you first have to figure out what’s going on with it before you can fix it.

So I became my own detective, and started observing how my Root Shadows were showing up and throwing a wrench in my life. I suspended disbelief and “tried on” the perspective that my impulses were being driven by a phenomenon inside of me, kind of like a computer virus. The virus was a result of programming; it isn’t who I really am, and I just hadn’t known any other way to respond or feel. It’s at that point that everything started changing for me. I realized I was free to consciously choose what I wanted to believe about myself, and eliminate or at least diminish what doesn’t serve me.

When you realize that 95% of your negative thoughts, feelings and responses are being delivered by your Root Shadows, you can do something about it.

I understand the challenges this work presents. We have begun dismantling your coping mechanisms and they would be more than happy to keep driving you the way they have your whole life. I also know that when we began coaching together, you were ready to feel better about yourself and your life. This is the way I know how to get you there. I want to say again that I admire your courage for taking these steps to feel better.”